The healing of Victims
Openess gets you recognized
If you are open with the people around you then your abusers are made open to them also.The main fear of abusers is that thier tyrancy,violence,hatred and anger will be exposed.They thrive on the silence and the fear of thier victims.
Flowers
​I got flowers today.It wasnt our anniversary or any other day.we had our first argument last night and he said alot of cruel things that really hurt me.I know he is sorry and didnt mean the things he said..
because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today and it wasnt mothers day or any other special day.Last night he threw me into a wall and choked me.i woke up sore and bruised..i know he must be sorry..
because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today and it wasnt even my birthday or any other special day.Last night he beat me up again and it was worse than last time.If i leave him what will i and/or the kids do?What about money and a place for me/us??I am afraid of him and scared to leave.But i know he must be sorry..
because i got flowers today.
I got flowers today.today was different.It was the day of my funeral..Last night he finally killed me and beat me to death.If only i had gathered enough strength to tell on him and to leave him...
i would not have gotten flowers today.
Awareness helps
​This poem was shared to me a long time ago.However i myself have been free of spousal abuse for a very long time though my situation was worse but due courage and bringing my agressor to light...i am enjoying not being aprt from my children,grandchildren, family and friends.I am though a victim of institutional rape,sexual stalking and preying,assault,neglect,discrimination,harrassments and threats....I am fighting for the rights of all victims in different aspects.